Fathers are precious people..They try to act manly and unaffected by anything we might do.. Some stay this way and some get with our(woman)program..
One father I am talking about came with three grown children… They are his pride and joy. I was introduced to each one and I am sure they had there mixed feeling… I was so much younger than there father and mother. But they let me in and made me welcome because I was marrying there father and they loved him dearly.. That does not mean that it didn’t take us a while to love each other.. Like was first then it was love.. And they allowed two other children to come into his life(my grown children) who needed a father figure in there lives…Back to this husband and father, we were married very fast. We grew to know each other over time. We loved each other from the start..I need someone in my life who was kind and respectful of my feeling..Someone to walk with me not over me. To guide me to his way of thinking but not over power me with his views.. He is not a big talker and I was.. This was hard to understand.. I kept trying to fill the conversation as we sat next to each other and it was very frustrating.. Over time I learned I did not have to talk to make him happy.. Just yesterday we were talking about a phone conversation and he told me .. You know you don’t have to fill all my moments with sound.. I just have to know you are beside me. Now this told me so much about this man.. I have known this for a very long time.. Hearing him say it was just the icing on top of the cake.. We are together for life.. He has made me the better person I hope I am today.. And I hope I have been there the way I should be though all his sickness and his silences in the chair next to me…We don’t travel like we had said we would when we retired because of his health and my mother lives with us… I hope our children understand and keep coming to see us and don’t let children’s busy lives keep them away. God thank you for bringing this wonderful Man,Husband and Father into our lives.
He asked that I not put his face in anymore...so here is Butterfly
That was absolutely beautiful and true. I sing Dads praises all the time because he is the father I never had. I am beyond glad that you found him because he is the best thing that has ever happened to you, and therefore to us. He stepped up, when he didn’t have to, helped because he wanted to, even though I was young and making my mistakes. I am glad he did not give up on me. Dad means the world to me, though I may not express it to him all the time, I hope he knows. I wouldn’t be the person I am today without the help and gentle guidence he provided in my young adult life.
Thank you for being there and never giving up dad, and for doing all you have for my Mom. The two of you complete eachother, and I love you both
He is not only a husband and a father but he is also a friend. Not only is he a friend to us, but a friend to ALL the children and their children as well….but most of all …. he is a friend to you, his wife. He is the best thing that happend to you. Everyone that knows Gene, knows the meaning of friend. I only wish you had found him sooner. PSssss….. Any man that can put up with you and me is either called GENE or >>>> MAL !!!! Love you, Berta
I could not get him any sooner. He was busy raising children and I was busy introducing you to your husband…We both did ok…
Dona, I am so happy that you and my Dad found each other. I am like my Dad in so many ways and I am proud of that. I don’t talk a lot either. This caused a few rifts between myself and my current boyfriend. He could not understand this no matter how much I tried to make him.
I wish you and Dad still lived down here in
Ft. Lauderdale so we could visit more frequently, but I know how very happy he is, how happy you both are to be living where you are.
I remember one vacation where we were touring some caves in Tennessee. I think it was Tennessee, anyway I was about 8 years old or so and I got frightened that I was gonna fall through the crevices next to the walkway. My Daddy carried me the whole way through the tour! He still carries me, not physically but emotionally.
He has made the most beautiful wood carved birdhouse and flower vase for me. I brag to my friends who visit that my Daddy made these lovely things. I will always be his “little girl.” I LOVE YOU DAD!
Dona,
That was a wonderful bolg about my father and your husband. I am glad that you two have each other and you are a welcome part of our family. It did take some time to accept his new marriage but looking back it was a very very good thing for him and us as well. We love you both and we are happy that you both found and love each other.
Love Barry and the rest of the Wests
I had a hard time reading your blog the first time, but I am glad I read it. I agree with Ilene, he is the best thing that has happened to you. Gene is a wonderful person and I find warmth in being able to call Gene, Dad. I love how Dad puts others first and does for others it shows what a great human being he is. I love him dearly and wish he wasn’t in so much pain.
With all my love,
Eva